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The Frog and the Scorpion


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The Frog and the scorpionThis is a great story which is often miss-attributed to Aesop's fables. It was used by Orson Wells and variations have been in films ranging from the Crying Game to the Sopranos to Star Trek. But with no more introduction here's it is.   


The scorpion set out on an adventure but before to long he came across a river. The river was wide and swift, and he could see no way to cross. When he saw a frog sitting in the rushes on the other side of the river. So he decided to ask the frog for help to get across the stream.

"Hello Mr. Frog!" called the scorpion, "Would you be so kind as to give me a ride on your back across the river?"


The frog replied " How do I know that if I try and help you, you wont try to kill me?"

"Because," the scorpion replied, "If I try to kill you, then I would die too, for you see I cannot swim!"


"Now this seemed to make sense to the frog."

So the frog agreed. The scorpion crawled onto the frog's back and the frog slid into the river.


However halfway across the river, the frog suddenly felt a sharp sting in his back and, out of the corner of his eye, saw the scorpion remove his stinger from the frog's back. A deadening numbness began to creep into his limbs.


"You fool!" croaked the frog, "Now we shall both die! Why on earth did you do that?"

The scorpion shrugged, "I could not help myself. It's in my nature."


Then they both sank into the muddy waters and drowned.


What a great story and loads of messages. My mind wondered how often the relationships we have with partners, family and colleagues and are like this. Like the frog we expect others to change, to remove the flaws we see within them. We give them our considered common sense feedback, maybe they begin to think they want to change or perhaps they just tell us they do. But change is hard because the way we think and behave, the talents and perceived flaws we have are often hardwired into to us (remember "What's hardwired into your brain"). Maybe with some help if YOU really want to change yourself it might be possible (Check out NLP for help with this).


But if you're relying on anyone else to change so you can be happy or deliver the result you want. Then expected to get stung by the scorpions tail.


Till next week enjoy your relationships, with people just the way they are.


Thanks for listening

David Gardner


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